Parent’s Survival Guide to Fifty Shades of Grey

from Miriam Grossman, M.D.

As a child and adolescent psychiatrist I’m in a unique position. Young people walk in my office, sit down, and open their hearts. Soon their secrets spill out: I was drugged and raped. I’m sleeping with my best friend’s fiancee. My girlfriend had an abortion. I want to die.

I’ve spent the past thirty years of my professional life listening to these, and many other tales, so I have some expertise about the lives of teens and young adults. Their number one problem? Romance.

There’s a lot for them to figure out, but they’re utterly lost. What do I want, and how do I get it? How do I deal with peer pressure and navigate the hook-up culture? Are there consequences to sex, or is it just about fun? What’s normal? What’s not?

Please know, these are kids who by and large do well in other areas. They’re successful at school and with friends; some of them are accomplished musicians and athletes. But romance? That’s where they’re thrown off-track, and there are lots of tears, anger, and regret.

I often wonder to myself, I know this kid has responsible, loving parents…where are they?

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Oregon School Children used to Shill for School Based Clinics

This video was taken in Salem, Oregon at the capitol on March 14, 2013.  We decided to stroll up and ask some questions – the answers get really interesting at the 3:00 mark of the video. Initially,  a young woman began to answer our questions but very quickly she was pulled back so a staffer could take control. The staffer proceeds to explain that Multnomah County has very different values and politics and as such, makes decisions for school based health clinics based upon those values and politics.  The audio is not great but you can still understand, turn up on the volume on your speakers when listening. There were a lot of high school students milling around so there was quite a bit of back ground noise.

There were many children present at this school based health clinic booth that were brought in by the bus load. At least three school buses were seen in the capitol parking lot that Thursday. Interesting to note that after many of these children were set loose in the capitol with their talking points, a charter bus full of Planned Parenthood folks showed up and followed right behind the kids as they talked to legislators. Coincidence?

Thanks to Carlton Tilley for taking the video