The most overlooked characteristic of who you want to marry

This article touches on something that is often overlooked in the first blush of romance. As things progress however, it’s important to take a hard look at how your potential mate will handle illness, marital strife, child raising and finally, suffering. I look to my mother and step-father as an outstanding example of a balanced marriage: In the good times they were strong partners and yet, during times of major difficulties like the blending a family of children ranging in age from 7 – 17 and ultimately, my step-father’s long illness and death a few year ago, they showed tremendous love and commitment to each other. That is a model for me to this day. In the last 5 years of Mark’s life, he was in and out of hospital and steadily declined – something that was incredibly hard on him, as an active and vibrant man, and also so demanding for my mother – while they certainly had their up and down moments, overall they were committed to each other and to comforting each other. I was married for a short time my early 20s to a man who was good looking, rather nice, not too bright but also not a bad guy. I thank God every day that I didn’t have a family with him as he was ultimately not that nice or that good. I learned a lot from that first marriage and have not repeated the same mistakes in my soon to be 25 year marriage to my husband.  – Beesha

There is one vital characteristic you should look for in a spouse but unfortunately, it is often forgotten.

by Kevin Thompson posted at FamilyShare.com

“In sickness and in health.”

On two occasions I have said those words with the full confidence that the couple repeating those words actually knew what they meant.

The first occurrence brought a smile to my face. She had endured and marriage was her reward on the other side of illness. Together they have journeyed through the struggles of a serious disease as boyfriend and girlfriend. Now they would be husband and wife. They knew what “in sickness and in health” meant.

The second occurrence brought a tear to my eye. She had weeks to live. The vow renewal was his gift to her. I almost cut the words fearing they might be too painful. But with a crowd gathered I included them as a testimony to all who would hear them say, “in sickness and in health.” They meant it and everyone knew it.

Few people consider sickness and suffering when picking a mate.

They consider how the other person might look in the morning or what bad habits they might have.

They consider what offspring they could produce or what extended family they might bring to the reunion.

Yet few people ever consider what is a vital question — can I suffer with this person?

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From 2012: An Interview with Chris Kyle, “American Sniper”

American Sniper author Chris Kyle is interviewed by Cameron Gray at the 2012 SHOT show in Las Vegas, Nevada. This poignant video shows a very humble and human Chris Kyle talking about his book, his fans, his love for kids, and the Second Amendment .

Couple Bitter About Twins Sparks Internet Outrage

By  | September 6, 2013 | Independent Journal Review

2-little-twins-baby-sleepingA few months ago an anonymous couple set the internet ablaze when they posted dual essays discussing their disappointment after discovering they were pregnant with twins.

In the father’s original post he explains why he and his wife decided to go with IVF (in vitro fertilization) treatments to conceive:

We desperately tried to get pregnant for nearly two years, first the natural way, then via several IUIs (intrauterine inseminations). But getting pregnant when you’re both pushing 40 is sort of like trying to blow up the Death Star; it’s possible, but you need the perfect shot.

The couple chose to implant two embryos to increase their odds. Naturally they were overjoyed to discover the procedure had been a success. When they discovered that both embryos had successfully implanted? Not so much.

My initial reaction was full of disappointment, anger, fear, and guilt…As horrible as this might sound, we found ourselves wishing these twins away.

The comments section lit up with angry messages from readers accusing the anonymous writer of being ungrateful and selfish.

Feeling her husband was being treated unfairly, the mother took to the blogosphere to give her own side of the story. The expectant mother echoed her husband’s frustration with impending twins.

While I am grateful we are pregnant, I am changed…The “glass half full” person is no longer. The twins are coming fast, and I don’t feel a sense of joy…We only wanted one…Now, seven months into my pregnancy — and in therapy — I still feel remorse and am terrified of our future.

Her comment section was not much lighter than her husband’s.

I think the truth of this story goes way behind a couple of selfish millennials complaining about their abundance of blessings. This is a larger symptom of a society that has now raised entire generations of children who believe they are entitled to whatever they want whenever they want without consequence. This anonymous couple is nothing more than the Saved By the Bell version of Occupy Wallstreet.

These people are very close to my own age. We were raised by the children of the 60′s who were still high on modern feminism and sit-ins. We were taught that a woman can have it all. Nay, that she is ENTITLED to it all – the perfect career, the perfect marriage, the perfect family. We were raised to believe that “finding your own path” was a necessary precursor to having a family.

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Manhood 101 for feminists

A Voice for Men| August 6, 2013

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Feminists are at it again, demonstrating they are equal to men in strength and independence — by damseling themselves, threatening to cry and faint and never step up to prove their equalness again if men don’t start protecting them from harsh words typed from behind anonymous screen names on the interwebs.

You can get a sample of that kind of thinking in this video.

Once again, they need men to clear the way, not of wild beasts or indigenous savages or foreign attackers, but of misfits and teenagers with laptops and low social IQs. Only when this scurrilous plague is extirpated can this brand of woman prove she can do anything men can do, and do it better, and do it in heels.

Feminist woman has so much to say; so many emotions to emote, and she will stand behind it all like Joan of Arc, as long as there are men around to shut anyone up who gives her a hard time. Or who disagrees with her. Or who might look a little creepy.

Her censorship target célèbre this time is the social media website Twitter, where, like everywhere else online, there is no shortage of under-socialized, and likely underage incorrigible misfits who get a rise out of getting under the people’s skins. The thinner the skin, methinks, the better.

Nothing gets under the wafer-thin porcelain epidermis of a feminist quicker than rapey-tweets, which apparently have been coming in abundance.

Mind you, the feminists have reframed these comments into rape “threats,” which almost none of them are. But don’t worry, I won’t bore you long with such realities. The fact is that many of these comments do have a kind of rapey aura to them, which is by design since everyone knows that use of the “R” word outside PSAs for the sexual grievance industry makes feminists wilt like cheap flowers and put 911 on speed dial.

There are actually two phenomena at play here. One is the comments themselves, which we will get to in a minute, but the first one is what I like to call Watson’s Law. This is the principle that social power and dominance for feminist women as a class is roughly equal to a manufactured crisis multiplied by the energy expended by obsequious men to charge in and fix it.

We saw this law’s namesake, Rebecca Watson, pave the way for her sisters by taking a few internet comments and turning them into a security crisis for secular conferences, thereby thrusting her (with her enthusiastic consent) into the public limelight. Since then she can giggle and smile while complaining that she can’t make it through the parking lot at a secular gathering without being raped, or maybe even being invited to coffee.

Anita Sarkeesian was a quick study in Watson’s Law. She took the basic principles and put them to work for profit. Sarkeesian posted some pro-feminist drivel in an online community where she knew it would not be popular, then took the predictable rapey-beaty reactions, parlayed them into a threat narrative and used that to damsel herself in a Kickstarter. She shrewdly manipulated her way into 150 grand, with which she has made a couple of Youtube vids aimed at ultimately asserting feminist hegemony in the gaming world.

Not bad work if you can get it, and these women can.

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Robert Oscar Lopez: I was raised by lesbians, and I oppose gay marriage

by Robert Oscar Lopez | Tue Aug 14, 2012 11:17 EST | LifeSiteNews

August 14, 2012 (thePublicDiscourse.com) – Between 1973 and 1990, when my beloved mother passed away, she and her female romantic partner raised me. They had separate houses but spent nearly all their weekends together, with me, in a trailer tucked discreetly in an RV park 50 minutes away from the town where we lived. As the youngest of my mother’s biological children, I was the only child who experienced childhood without my father being around.

After my mother’s partner’s children had left for college, she moved into our house in town. I lived with both of them for the brief time before my mother died at the age of 53. I was 19. In other words, I was the only child who experienced life under “gay parenting” as that term is understood today.

Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.

Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn’t; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.

Even if my peers’ parents were divorced, and many of them were, they still grew up seeing male and female social models. They learned, typically, how to be bold and unflinching from male figures and how to write thank-you cards and be sensitive from female figures. These are stereotypes, of course, but stereotypes come in handy when you inevitably leave the safety of your lesbian mom’s trailer and have to work and survive in a world where everybody thinks in stereotypical terms, even gays.

I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.

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H/T Teresa Harke from the Oregon Family Council

Fighting Planned Parenthood in Salem-Keizer Public Schools. What You Can Do

We must act now to prevent Planned Parenthood from becoming more firmly entrenched in our school system.  We must not have the nation’s largest promoter of promiscuity and teen age sex, and the nation’s largest abortion provider presented to our children as an educator, a community service organization, and a resource to meet their needs.  Our children must be aware of this organization’s true nature, not have them presented as just another “agency” in our schools.  Planned Parenthood must not be given access to our children in any form.  In some school districts, they have even run clinics in the schools.  We can’t let that happen here.

We are asking that the word be spread about what is going on.  Post Salemschoolwatch.com on your Facebook page.  E-mail your friends.  Talk to your pastor.  People need to be made aware of what is going on.

We would like every parent, every taxpayer, every community member to contact the school board and the superintendent to voice their opposition to Planned Parenthood’s presence in our schools.

We need people to show up at school board meetings.

Everyone should remain polite, but firm and insistent in communication with the district.  We can’t take “no” for an answer.

Make it a special point to contact the Superintendent, the Chairperson of the School Board, and the Vice Chair Person of the school board, listed below.

Periodically check the website, salemschoolwatch.com for updates and information.

Don’t wait for “permission” to act.  If you feel called to do something, then do it.  But do keep in touch so we remain effective and aren’t duplicating efforts, or if you want to discuss an idea with someone.

What You Can Do.

Portland Teacher Fears Dismissal For Opposing Planned Parenthood

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Portland, Ore. – A math teacher at Benson High School in Portland has been placed on administrative leave for vocally opposing Planned Parenthood and abortion, and fears that he may be dismissed from his employment because of his beliefs. Bill Diss, who is also certified to teach college-level computer science to high school students, has taught at Benson High School for 11 years. He has been on paid leave since March 19th, and was informed that he has been recommended for dismissal before the 2014-2015 school year.

Diss had just finished teaching a class on the 19th – a Tuesday – and shortly after the students left the room he was informed that he was being immediately put on administrative leave “pending a recommendation to the superintendent that you be dismissed from your employment with Portland public schools for reasons that have been discussed with you.” He was given a brief moment to collect his things before being escorted from the building by police officers and told not to come back.

There is more to this story than meets the eye. Diss’ dismissal comes in the wake of a long-standing rivalry between Diss and the government-funded organization Planned Parenthood. Diss is a staunch Roman Catholic and pro-life advocate and claims a moral opposition to the organization and their positions on sex and abortion.

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Mr. President, I’ve Evolved On Gay Marriage Too

Mr. President, I’ve Evolved On Gay Marriage Too (via http://www.thebrennerbrief.com)

Last year during the presidential campaign, President Barack Obama “evolved” on the issue of gay marriage, and decided that he would now support gay marriage. Let’s review how he evolved on gay marriage over the years: However, Mr. President, I’ve evolved on gay marriage, as well. Growing up…