also known as:
how not to act like a little dog on a leash.
So this funny thing happens when you decide to really be you. Sometimes people don’t like it.
I know this, because I’ve spent an enormous amount of energy over the course of my life trying to get people to like me. Have you ever watched a dog competition? Living your life trying to get everyone to like you is a little like being a dog in a dog show. It’s like handing a leash to another person and then committing to do a bunch of tricks and turns in response to their moves. It’s acting and reacting in response to your owner, which is an interesting word to use when you think about it. If you are prone to use approval from others as your way of shaping your identity, “owner” might be just the right word.
Allowing our own identity to be “owned” by another’s approval might be one of the great reasons why it’s worth fighting against. I’ve learned the hard way that people’s approval cannot be the way I make decisions. First–because it’s exhausting to be a trained dog. Second–it never works. It has a 100% failure rate because no matter how hard I try, I cannot actually get everyone to like me.
Go ahead, say it out loud: “Self: Not everyone is going to like me.”
Whew, you did it. See? You didn’t spontaneously combust. You are still you, even if someone doesn’t like it. Baby steps.
Here’s three other ways to keep loving people even when they don’t like you:
I will be the first to admit that I AM NOT A MORNING PERSON – never have been and frankly, I have serious doubts that I ever will be. That said, this article from The Sweet Life with Ericka inspires me to want to try and be a morning person. Lately I have taken on a number of new and exciting challenges – things that I have prayed for and dreamed about doing – but I’m finding that I just don’t have the time to get it all done some days. Getting up early, even just half an hour early like I did this morning, made a big difference in that I was able to actually have some breakfast, say hi to the cat and not have to race out the door. Arising at 4:30 a.m. is a lofty goal for me but this article gives me some inspiration and some practical tips that might, just maybe, give me the kick in the tail that gets me up at say, 6:00 a.m. – yeah, that’s a doable goal! – Beesha
Here’s Ericka’s article:
Wake Up Early: My Proven Methodology For Getting Up Every Day at 4:30am
I take a little pride in telling people I wake up early everyday at 4:30am. It sounds insanely early, right? I never thought I’d be THAT early of a bird — but apparently I am.
I often hear, “I don’t know how you do that” or “You’re crazy” or “I could never do that.”
It’s not easy but, it works. I am kind of worthless after work and so, it’s in those before-work hours that I cram in all of my productivity. That’s how I juggle my many hats!
By 9am, I’ve exercised, meditated, blogged, started dinner, done some writing, eaten breakfast and caught up on the news. No, I don’t have kids — yet
So, how do I drag my tired butt out of bed at such an ungodly hour every weekday morning? Here ya go :
American Sniper author Chris Kyle is interviewed by Cameron Gray at the 2012 SHOT show in Las Vegas, Nevada. This poignant video shows a very humble and human Chris Kyle talking about his book, his fans, his love for kids, and the Second Amendment .
Posted in Cool Stuff!, Firearms, Gun Control, Marriage, Politics, US Constitution
Tagged American Sniper, Cameron Gray, Chris Kyle, Las Vegas, Nevada, SHOT Show
The StreamSavers Mission
StreamSavers is a conservation organization that cleans waterways of pollution, heavy metals and garbage. The StreamSavers organization is dedicated to healthy watersheds, seeking to protect the environment through the removal of pollution, recycling and watershed habitat and ecology education through grassroots organizations and volunteers.
Posted in Cool Stuff!, Education, Environment, Oregon News
Tagged conservation organization, environment, grassroots organizations, heavy metals, mercury, Pollution, StreamSavers, watershed habitat, Watersheds
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
The first gift of Christmas was a simple gift given by a father to all his children, to us. He gave us His son, the Christ. He is the gift. This Christmas season, how will you share the gift? http://christmas.mormon.org
Published February 9, 2014 By
Some Oregon elected officials considering a ban on loaded guns in public were mocked mercilessly for the proposal. An Ashland, Ore., resident on Monday used “satire to point out the idiocy of the proposed ordinance” to City Council members, according to a video posted by Guns Save Lives. Oregon is an open-carry state, which means no license is required unless carrying a concealed firearm. The city of Portland passed its own ordinance prohibiting loaded guns in public places, and the Oregon Supreme Court upheld the law, according to the ABA Journal. Ashland is proposing a ban similar to Portland’s, the Ashland Daily Tidings reported. The resident speaking before the City Council said he represents Citizens for a Really Safe Ashland, explaining that his group wants to “capitalize on the desire to act in a timely manner, or even in a knee-jerk, expedited manner, to introduce a comprehensive public safety ordinance that, while perhaps not actually addressing any genuine or legitimate issues, does serve to promote a divisive and partisan agenda.”
He then offered a few suggestions on how to make the city “really safe.” The group “mocks knee-jerk gun control laws to the point of absurdity,” Dan Cannon wrote in Guns Save Lives. “How he kept a straight face the entire time is beyond me.”
Originally Published at BizPacReview
I try to post things that I think are important – mostly about current events, politics, and culture but…sometimes something crosses my path that I think is important and it fits none of those categories. This video is one of those times. I have been in possession of a great bottle of wine and not had a darn corkscrew so, this tip would have been great to know then! Cheers!
Published on Jan 7, 2014
Have you ever been in the situation where you’d like to open a bottle of wine but you can’t get hold of a corkscrew for love not money?
Well I have and I always used to try to force the cork INTO the bottle. Until I picked up this rather nifty trick.
h/t Mirabeau Wine
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Posted in Cool Stuff!, Culture, Media, Oregon News, Politics, Salem News
Tagged #1A, Ben Nanke, First Amendment, Franklin Center, Michelle Malkin, Oregon, Salem, Tabitha Hale, Watchdogwire.com
This song has been in my head and in my heart for a while. I love it and wanted to share it with you.